Saturday, September 4, 2010

End of one chapter, start of a new chapter

A lot has happened since I last blogged. I had my final set of exams this week and finished on Friday - no more studying! (Unless if I decide to start a Masters degree or other study). After 19 years of study, I will be starting full-time work on Monday. I'll finally be a 'normal' working person and it has taken a lot of years of study to get here!

I'm starting work at a private law firm but I am not sure this is what I want. I can already tell it's going to be long hours on end, having to put up with cut-throat attitudes of co-workers and even worse, arrogant behaviour by seniors who will look down on me, starting off by doing monotonous tasks such as photocopying or editing drafts. All this to be at the whim of a few greedy executives at top levels, assisting them to achieve their goal of gaining profitability, the bulk of which goes back to them, in order to satisfy their never-ending materalistic wants. I will arrive home extremely tired, irritated, feeling dirty and grumpy, having no this really the life I want to go into?

In the last two weeks I have been thinking this through, and the answer is no. Community Legal Centres, which help disadvantaged persons in need of legal aid but cannot afford it, appealed far more to me. My time and effort would actually go towards helping those truly in need. The hours would be a lot better, the workplace would understand the meaning of work/life balance, and co-workers would treat each other with respect and dignity. So I applied to a few of these Centres. I attended an interview last week, but unfortunately have not heard back from any of them.

Taking the rest of the year off to go overseas and do some volunteer work was another option. I would gain numerous and varied experiences, from helping the needy, to experiencing a different culture, to learning more about myself without the pressures of life in Sydney. Most of all, this opportunity would allow me to reflect on the person I am now and improve my thinking and relations with others, so that I would become a better person; truly living "life" as it should be. However, the realities of having to earn money in order to live (ironic) and disapproval from parents preclude this.

So for now, a balance has to be acheived. I will have to go to work on Monday, but at the same time if it becomes absolutely unbearable, going overseas to volunteer is what I will do. Unfortunately this balance has to be struck now; I have not yet found a way to truly "live".

Also, on Friday my boyfriend and I broke up. Right after my last assignments were handed in. I went to the apartment and packed everything that belonged to me, it took a good 2 hours. Of course it's painful when you part from someone, and when they ened things, part of the sadness stems from the rejection. I normally take break ups quite badly, but over the years I have matured. I know who I'm looking for, and over the break I realised he wasn't it. My friends and family have been extremely supportive of me. This made packing up, having to see him, and handing back the keys a lot easier. I always though moving out because of a break up would be the hardest thing, but I handled it quite well, by realising it was not going to work. I only cried for 10 minutes after he told me it wasn't going to work out!

I chose to have the talk and move my things on Friday because I had planned to go out with some friends who I'd met through my course, the same night. As I was looking forward to spending time with them after the pressure of exams was lifted, this made things a lot easier. I had a great night, laughed until I cried over a pair of white non-slip kitchen shoes, met Brett Lee and Michael Clarke (famous cricketers), and stayed out for a long time.

On Saturday, I met a friend for coffee, and during coffee I got invited to a dinner party that night. I spent the evening at my friends' apartment overlooking the Harbour Bridge. It was awkward when I stepped in and saw it was 3 couples Luckily, everyone knew each other and none of them just stayed around their partners. They were great company. I received an unexpected but welcoming call from one of my best friends late that night when I got home, and we chatted for a while.

Today is Father's Day and I plan to make a cake for my dad..I'm not sure what cake yet, I will have to think about that. I'm meeting with a high school friend for shopping and dinner.

So one chapter has ended, but the start of this new chapter has been perfect! I hope that is a sign of good things to come, although I'm not looking forward to work tomorrow. I'll take things one day at a time and see how it goes.


  1. You sure have had a very busy few days! I hope work goes REALLY well for you tomorrow!! :-)

  2. Happy father's day to your daddy! Good luck with the cake :)

  3. I think the self reflection that you are doing simply by writing on this blog will help you find some of the balance you are looking for. Best of luck!


  4. This is a great post. And as you said you are in a time of new beginnings. Despite the break-up, I sense a real peace and calm in you - or at least when you were writing this post. Your attitude toward the law firm is SO HEALTHY. I've worked with these types in the past and completely understand the hierarchical attitudes that are basically ridiculous. You have the right mindset - it is just a freaking job. And if it's not your life's calling you can leave that thing and go after what IS calling to you - even if it means a few stepping stones in the process.

    All the best to you,